Weekend Success Story

This morning, I had one of the most successful Sunday mornings I’ve had in months.

No, I did not cure cancer. Nor did I finish all my homework for the next two weeks. I didn’t get the interview done that I need to do for the student paper. I did not go to brunch at a fancy place with fancy friends and order fancy (and expensive) eggs Benedict (how does anyone like eggs Benedict anyway? One of life’s great mysteries).

This morning was a success only in the fact that I did nothing. Zip. Zilch. Zero.

I went to bed fairly late last night, after a wonderful evening rushing about town with friends. I ended up taking some benadryl to counteract my evening of petting and cuddling with cats–adorable, but allergy bombs for me–and the medicine knocked me out. 

morning in bed

Most weekends, I cannot sleep in past 8 or 8:30. The thought of all the things I have to accomplish in the day jolts me up and out of the bed and sends me stumbling to my Keurig. But this morning, I woke up at 8:30…and was completely unperturbed. I rolled over, and went back to sleep.

Amazing. At 9, I got up and ate a little breakfast, checked my email, but I was still feeling really groggy and tired. So what did I do?

I got back in bed for another hour.

I can see how this might not seem like a big deal. In the grand scheme of things, I suppose it isn’t. But I live most of my life in a constant state of hurrying about, trying to stay on top of a million and one things, and hardly taking a moment to sit and just be. Every second of the day has to be spent accomplishing something.  This high anxiety personality of mine usually leads to some wonderful successes, but also to quick burnouts where I feel like getting out of bed is a chore. 

So this morning, I changed it. I ignored the pangs of rising anxiety (what about homework? Shouldn’t I be working on a blog post? Or reading! I could be improving my mind!) and simply gave my body what it needed: sleep. And lots of it.

Now I feel happy, rested, and ready to take on this next crazy week. It’s amazing what a tiny bit of change in perspective can do!

Goals for 2013

As I posted earlier, I love setting up my goals.  Here is a brief overview of my major goals this year, which I created as stepping stones on the way to my audacious ten year goals!

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  1. By May 15th, 2013  I will figure out what I want to do regarding school and graduate school. 
  2. By December 31st, 2013 I will have finished one novel (it doesn’t have to be perfect)
  3.  I will improve my daily happiness by following the commandments I set forth.  I will document this daily and track my progress to make sure it is happening.
  4. I will spend my summer working hard and saving money for future travels while also doing theatre.  I will save $4,000 by December 1st, 2013.

Pretty intense goals, huh?  I’m actually very excited about these.  The success of them will come from the dates I’ve set–I always do better when I have a real deadline! Pressure works wonders.  Specificity is also helpful.  Here’s hoping these goals make this year one of the best ones yet.

New Year, New Plan

Because of my obsessive list making and organizational skills, New Years is like Christmas for me: setting goals is possibly my favorite thing in the world, behind beautiful plays, coffee, and cuddly sweaters.  I have been thinking about my goals for the coming semester and the year beyond for about two weeks now, narrowing down from my thoughts about what I need to work on.  General happiness is a big one; as I’ve posted before about my Happiness Project, I feel that I can improve on my every day level of being content.  I also want to develop in my acting program and in making smart career choices that pertain to acting and to the English minor I am pursuing.

I’m always looking for new goal setting formats.  For some reason, writing it down in a memorable way works a lot better for me than just typing it up and forgetting it.  This year, I was inspired by my friend Maya (you can find her amazing blog here: http://www.charminglystyled.com/ ), who wrote about goal setting in a revolutionary (at least, for me) way.  You plan out where you see yourself in ten years, and then make goals by year (one year, five year, etc.) to help you get to that audacious goal, realistically.

Theatre majors, more than others, have an issue with worrying about the future.  I think, personally, that that’s healthy.  You will never get cast if you think life will simply “work itself out.”  However, it does sometimes seem that the goals I want (working at a theatre professionally, publishing novels, etc.) is unattainable in the short term.  It’s hard to imagine beginning to work towards them.  Maya’s approach helps with that by setting your long term, reach-for-the-stars visions, and then reverting back to the approaching year to simply get on track.  Though I love being chill, I think that it certainly helps to set yourself up for success!

I also have my own version of goal setting that I formatted for every day happiness this year.  Basically, I sanctioned out the important aspects of my life: Relationships, School, Faith, Health and Emotional Wellness, etc.  I then made three to four subgoals in these categories that I know need work, and will follow to create overall happiness. For example, the Health category is a big one for me.  My subgoals are: 1) to workout as much as I need (not push myself too far, but motivate myself to go as often as I can), 2) to eat everything in moderation, and not feel deprived and avoid overindulgence, and 3) to get rid of my guilt about eating.  All of these are small things that will lead to overall daily happiness!

These are just simple ideas to get you started on goal setting.  It might not be the most exciting thing to set your mind to, but I firmly believe that it helps better a college student’s life…especially if you’re as busy as a BFA!

Goooooooooals!

We had to list goals for the semester last night at my sorority house, and I thought I might list mine here.  A double reminder, of sorts.

Lauren’s Awesome Goal List for Fall 2012!

1. No Panic Attacks!

Already broke this one a little.  Basically, I just really want to work on my anxiety, cause that crap has no place in my life.  Everything works out in the end, and I am going to get much better at taking stuff one day at a time. I promise.

2. Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul 🙂

Basically, I’m going to work out and eat healthier than ever before so I don’t feel like crap. But this also means taking what I love about myself to heart, and really appreciating what my body can do!  This is a difficult one for all girls my age, especially in such a looks-focused industry, but I am really going to work on it.  See my “Fitness and Recipes” page for help with this one!

3. Get Out There

With rehearsals, school, and everything else in my crazy life, it can be so easy to succumb to the temptation to just sit around and be bored when I have a free moment.  But not this year.  I am going to take care of myself, but I am also going to go out and have experiences and meet people and try new things.  I want to grow, damn it!

4. Budget and Get Crafty

No longer will I be spending $50 on sushi I don’t even like.  I am just going to work on wisely spending my money and living on a budget while still living.  This means getting crafty in my gift giving, which is actually kind of exciting.

5. Love.

Ah, my favorite word in the whole English language.  This year I am going to love harder than ever before. I am going to let the most important people in my life know that I appreciate them, and I am not going to waste time disliking people that have traits I can’t change.  I’m not going to let myself get walked all over anymore, but I will do it in a loving, always graceful way. And it will be great.

There you have it! I think with a little support and will power, I can accomplish these.  Might have to post them on my wall somewhere.  I refuse to sink into the Sophomore Slump!! It is going to be the best semester yet!